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This is such a nice, positive piece about Internet dating that I just had to post it here.  The author has it just right: Online dating is what you make it to be.  See her suggestions below…

Whats Online Dating? And How to Make Online Dating Work For You

Submitted by ricky776 on October 24, 2008

There seems to be two distinct opinions about online dating in existence today. The first is that it is a fantastic service that caters to the modern man and woman that does not have the time to conventionally date or wises to screen dates first. The second is more negative and seems to imply that online dating is in fact a scam or worse, a marketplace for the sad, lonely and weird. No matter which camp you fall into now, if you ever have a good experience on a dating site then you will perceive it in a whole new light.

In actual fact, your online dating experience depends on what you make of it. You have to make the experience work for you as opposed to the other way around. You should be proactive and cease the opportunity presented to you with both hands. The tips below will help you to make the most of online dating and find exactly what you are looking for at the same time.

1. Choose A Positive Approach - Never join a dating site thinking it will be a disaster. Online dating will be a disaster for you if you take that approach because you will not allow yourself to enjoy the experience. Look upon it as a bit of fun that could lead to some lasting friendships and perhaps a little love. Amy negativity or contempt you feel for others on there will shine right through and you will not get anything from the experience at all.

2. Keep An Open Mind - Never judge a book by its cover, and never judge the person you meet on the site via one email or conversation. Take the time to get to know the individual a little before you make up your mind about someone. Everyone wants to make a good first impression and so will be nervous. Allow at least a couple of conversations before you judge.

3. Take It At Your Own Pace - Do not rush into anything. If you do not feel ready to concentrate on one person then do not do it. If you wish to keep your options open then say you are looking for friendship rather than a relationship. Never commit to anything before you are ready because it really could burn you later if you do.

4. Remain Mysterious - Only ever reveal the details about yourself that you are happy for individuals that you have never met before to know. If you do not want to use your date of birth then stick to the month and year. If you want to be known by a nickname then you can be. Never give your address or phone number out at all. This is all for your own safety as much as for the sake of the experience. Just relax and enjoy it but never put yourself in danger.



Of course not, on the contrary improve the personality of a person!!

your totally right about that, I actually done dating someone, and he really wanted to come in me.. I mean in my place but I have no interest of giving it to him, maybe just for protection or I don’t have intentions of getting intimate with him.

Hi...I 41 year old woman.  Online dating has a been a huge blessing for me for it has enabled me to meet very very special men that match my unique interests. If I had to find these men in real life...I would be looking very hard for very long time...so I am so grateful for online dating and think it’s a godsend...especially for older single women.

Having said that...I think too many women around my age are too negative with internet dating.  IMO they should be embracing it not be negative. If anything is “wrong” with it it is their approach (their profiles, photo, etc) not the system. The system is wonderful.  There is no other place where older women can meet so many eligible men, IMO.

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